[soinus]

While I completely agree with you that asking for forgiveness in these situations is probably a better strategy, I definitely know the feeling that OP had.

My take on why it's hard is that I want to be a team player and I generally want to do good for the company and especially the team. If I go and do something else, which I believe in, but which is not what we agreed upon with my team, it feels awkward and I either have to do it in my spare time (this strategy wears thin with time) it "sabotage" something else that I'm doing.

So I definitely see a structural issue at hand here. If anybody has a suggestion of how these situations could be addressed - I'm all ears. How can we tackle situations where the time to write code is much much less than the amount of time to discuss if we have to write this code? How to skip to writing the code quicker?