I moved to the US from the UK and I think it was a mistake. The first 5 years were great now my kids have settled I feel kinda stuck. I didn't mind working non stop and dedicating life to work, but its a drag.
Become a freelancer/consultant. Also perhaps consider moving to a different part of the US. I moved from the lower peninsula to small-town Montana 20 years ago and much prefer it here.
Find a better job that respects work-life balance? There are plenty in the US if you aim for them.
In my in the bay area you'd be ridiculed if you checked in during a vacation, I took 5 continuous weeks off no problem and emailing off-hours is frowned upon.
When you get some experience and seniority is usually isn’t too bad. All my jobs would extend vacation when I asked, even if some portion were unpaid.