[vlod]

Have you tried not being a good listener? or cranking that knob down a bit.

Maybe you're coming across as a super interested in what people have to say, that you're artificially (can't think of a better word) keeping the conversation in their court.

Allowing the conversation to go silent and see what happens. If they don't want to reciprocate or don't appear to listen or seem interested, then maybe move on.

Note: I'm not dismissing and would largely agree to what you're saying (people just hear).