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by kaptain 1733 days ago
I have children. Their access and usage of devices is my responsibility.
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The fact that you have parental responsibilities does not absolve anyone else of their responsibilities. That would be a non sequitur.

But anyway, it’s not reasonable to expect parents to know if this or that app is more likely to increase the risk of suicide. Fortunately I have a government that I pay for that can research this and help me with that.

They can assume all apps increase the risk of suicide.
Any remotely tech-savvy kid can go around you. I did insurmountable amounts of questionable shit when I was under 16. Only thing my parents ever confronted me about was when I forgot to switch off the “let contacts find me” feature in Instagram when I made an account and that was far from the worst way I defied their rules.

There’s a balance to be had here. First there’s the social responsibility- if there isn't something targeted towards kids that is proven to harm their mental health, that is a net good.

There’s also parental responsibility- being a college student I of course do not have the insight necessary here but I feel like I would’ve made better decisions if my parents weren’t as controlling with tech. It was almost a game to me to see what I could get away with. Simple things like adding me to a web filter _when I was in high school_ eroded the trust I had with them. Granted, it took me < 5 minutes to bypass it, but I still felt wronged.

Parenting wise, again, I’m completely unqualified, but I think having an open and honest relationship with technology is a better way than what my parents did. Rather than harping about “everything you do is our business,” being allowed to have some degree of privacy would have fostered trust.

tl;dr there are ethics involved with shipping a product. Don’t offload these ethical decisions entirely to parents, because kids generally don’t give a shit.

source: am 19

Tech-savvy kids don't have this problem. Also you don't need to shut it down for good, only add a little friction.
Pretty much every young teen watches porn or violence/gore/etc online without their parents knowing, either because they search for it or one of their school friends show it to them. That's the reality.