[mywittyname]

Ask for some time to walk through what you've done with someone.

I've been on the receiving end of enough toxic code reviews to develop an aversion to do them. So when asked to do them, I really just ask, did you test it?, do you want to demo it to me?, then approve it.

When people demo to me, I can see their pain points, because they always point them out. "Oh yeah, I was having trouble getting this to work, as you can see, it's still a little slow" and it gives them an opportunity to ask for advice or merely to vent.

So if you want good, honest feedback, a demo is the way to go. Honestly, it's hard to really grok what a bit of code is doing just by reading it. And who has time to pull code and run through it solo when doing a review?