[AmericanChopper]

Well, you seem to be rather obviously making a character judgement here. Choosing to value something doesn’t imply a value judgement is being made on all other things of potential value. It certainly doesn’t imply that all other potential values are lesser. Describing the values of others as being for certain gross is most definitely judging them as lesser.

[ohazi]

You're making a false equivalence. It's okay to call out and have a low opinion of someone who you believe is behaving poorly or acting in bad faith. The parent is making a character judgement, but they explained their reasoning for doing so.

This isn't the same as a hustler making character judgements left and right, pretending not to, all while trying to gaslight their employees into doing more work for them for free.

The parent has a moral argument for their character judgement. A hustler wields character judgements along with guilt and shame as a tool for achieving their own ends.

[AmericanChopper]

> A hustler wields character judgements along with guilt and shame as a tool for achieving their own ends.

That is exactly the same thing as the parent comment is doing. The only point of difference between the judgemental parent comment and a judgemental “hustler”, is where you or I stand in relation to the position they each take.

You’re also putting forward a straw man argument. I’m not a proponent of “hustle culture”, but I’ve seen plenty of their prolific material. Working hard for your own benefit seems to me to be their most fundamental value. Working hard exclusively for the benefit of your employer seems to be exactly antithetical to the values I see them promote.

The core judgemental (and hypocritical) idea here is that “the things I value are promoted in good faith, and the things I disagree with are promoted in bad faith”, which is simply an attribution bias that displays the same judgemental-ness you’re complaining about.