[jt0]

This is absolutely a problem that could be easily accommodated if there was any desire to do so, but I think focusing on gender is a big misunderstanding of the larger problem: society doesn't care about people with disabilities. If you're looking to engage with people working towards the totally reasonable outcomes you want, I'd invite you to wade into the disability advocacy space. I think you'll find that much more productive than the men's rights space (which, like the rest of society, doesn't really care about people with disabilities). You are absolutely right that it shouldn't be like this.