[faeriechangling]

I think what really strikes me is that the most common form of "stimming" I've seen in the wild is the leg bounce. I've seen various other kinds of "stims" from autistic people from verbal, to tapping their fingers, to playing with a pen, to using an actual toy, to squirming around a bit, to standing on their tiptoes. You also mentioned that you flap hands in private, that's the other thing, traditionally people have had this desire to "blend in" even when they DO flap their hands and avoid doing so.

However if you go onto tiktok, you primarily are going to see the stim that everybody knows that real autistic people™ have. There is even some far-left advocacy within this community about having "loud hands", and even said activists have expressed discomfort with "staged stimming"

https://www.autistichoya.com/2012/01/having-loud-hands.html https://www.autistichoya.com/2018/10/neurodiversity-needs-sh...

It's just a very bizarre thing that when you're on tiktok, people desire to share what makes them look the most autistic. The other genre is incredibly attractive women getting indignant about people believing they are not autistic because they are incredibly attractive women. I get this sort of twilight zone vibe going into autism tiktok where everything seems slightly wrong.

[FooBarBizBazz]

"Stimming"? What in the fuck? Can't normal people fidget?

[whimsicalism]

It's just a known ASD behavior. What exactly is your point, is it just general hostility to new words?

[cannabis_sam]

> There is even some far-left advocacy within this community about having "loud hands", and even said activists have expressed discomfort with "staged stimming"

I’m not trying to be contentious or combative, but what makes these people/trends far-left?

(Absolutely agree about how people dismiss «attractive» women as not possibly being autistic tho, it’s both sad and infuriating)

[faeriechangling]

Well regarding the specific person I cited they identify as "radical left" in their FAQ and they're probably the most prominent activist I can think of that makes this sort of advocacy.

https://www.autistichoya.com/p/blog-page_19.html?m=1

I don't mean to say all people who day people should stim openly are exactly far left. It's pretty mainstream especially in health/education nowadays to not suppress stimming so long as it's not unduly disruptive or harmful (i.e. stimming by screaming, smashing head into wall), as it's thought to be harmful for the suppressor.

I would say that if somebody is stimming as a political statement or identity I'm almost invariably going to assume they're pretty left of center, because they're making an identity out of nonconformism and because of blog posts from radical leftists like the above.

[whimsicalism]

> even said activists have expressed discomfort with "staged stimming"

This is what I'm confused by - were the links you posted meant to shed light on that?

[faeriechangling]

The first link was more straightup advocacy of stimming, the second is more of a reasoned followup after backlash to the first post 6 years earlier including the phenomenon of performative stimming. I'll jump to the blurb I was referencing in the 2nd link because the posts are quite long:

"But sometimes I have also seen activists engaged in stimming that was not authentic — stimming deliberately used to get attention or to make a statement. I’m not sure if this staged stimming is good and true: I’m not even sure if it could properly be called “stimming” (if stimming becomes divorced from its joy, its delicious rush, its natural high, is it still stimming?). And when we aren’t stimming for joy, because our bodies want and need it, because it is physically releasing us from neurotypical oppression (the rule of quiet hands), then who or what are we stimming for?"

Essentially making the point that stimming for the approval of others is still surrendering to ableism because you're performing for other people's acceptance when you should just be accepted. It's just that instead of trying to look more normal than you are, you try to look more different than you are.

This is to me what gets at the heart of what bothers me about TikTok. It seems to create pressure on autistic people to confirm to stereotypes of autistic people.

[zepto]

> This is to me what gets at the heart of what bothers me about TikTok. It seems to create pressure on autistic people to confirm to stereotypes of autistic people.

To me, this is a deeper problem with identity politics itself.

When group identities are recognized over individuals, there is pressure is to display group identity, regardless of whether that is autistism, blackness, queerness, etc.

TikTok is a Petri dish that amplifies the phenomenon.