[codetrotter]

> In particular what is known as "Attributional/Explanatory style" (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Explanatory_style)

Thanks for the link! I’ve been thinking quite often about these things for the past couple of years, having observed similar differences between people I’ve interacted with, but never knew that there was a name for it. Nice to know.

My own pet theory is that the experiences and our surroundings affect us a lot more than we may think.

And it is also a useful reminder for myself, as for years now I have tended to be rather harsh against myself at times, and to look negatively on the future and on what is possible, based on really a small set of bad experiences, some of them recent and some of them earlier in my life.

It’s difficult a lot of the time, to stay positive. And for the past couple of months I’ve been going through what I am pretty sure qualifies as burnout. And during this time I’ve also increasingly thought negatively about myself.

And I think the end of your comment, where you bring up a quote "the goal is not to cure depression, the goal is to learn how to manage your mood. You don't exercise once and now you're done with the exercise thing." is also probably key.

[johndubchak]

Self-compassion is key in combatting a lot of that negative self talk. Always ask yourself, “Would I talk this way to another person?”

If the answer is “no” then maybe it’s time you stop treating yourself this way and react with more internal kindness.

[aantix]

Curious, have you ever looked at the negative self-talk through the lens of nutritional deficiencies?

Specifically magnesium intake?

"In healthy adults, magnesium sits inside the NMDA receptors, preventing them from being triggered by weak signals that may stimulate your nerve cells unnecessarily. When your magnesium levels are low, fewer NMDA receptors are blocked. This means they are prone to being stimulated more often than necessary.]"

I literally have less self-talk when my magnesium intake is consistent. It's similar to the effect I've had when taking an SSRI (Lexapro).

Edit: Why the downvotes?

[AnIdiotOnTheNet]

We hold ourselves to a higher standard than others because we're more invested in ourselves. If you are constantly fucking up, gaining a bunch of weight, begin super lazy, or whatever it is much easier for me to forgive you then it is for me to forgive myself because I don't have to live with the consequences of your failings.

[pope_meat]

Everyone deserves compassion and understanding... except for me.

Obviously this is nonsense, I know for a fact that it's nonsense...and yet, I'm still a dumb piece of shit that can't internalize the fact that it's nonsense.

Spiral spiral spiral.