[oramit]

This is a really honest comment and my thought reading through it is that there isn't going to be "one quick trick" to help. Your troubles seem multifaceted and not completely about money. Have you considered talking to a therapist?

[wincy]

Maybe I haven’t found the right one yet. The last psychologist wanted to chat about the weather or something. I know I can set goals independently and execute on them. I lost 40 pounds during the pandemic after setting a weight loss goal. But you’re right it is multifaceted. It feels like a game of whacka mole where I put intentionality and care into one part of my life (career, or health) and the other parts languish.

[dboreham]

Therapists are likely similar to software developers: only a small proportion are really good. These days there are some great psychology resources on YouTube that could be helpful.