[civilized]

There's something odd about communicating feelings without the thoughts that gave rise to those feelings. It seems like the assumption is that the "observations" directly give rise to the "feelings", which I don't think is accurate. It's just leaving steps out, which is kind of not as candid and forthcoming as a difficult conversation should be IMO.

I think you should explain how the observation clashes with your expectations, so the person you're talking to isn't having to guess at that link between observation and feeling.