[soared]

The only times I've actually been able to use this kind of stuff is when explicitly telling a person I work with, "Hey, I want to start improving myself and our processes. Can we set up some time for talking about feedback?"

And then like once a month you do a feedback meeting, but the first one is talking about nvc/radical candor/etc and how the future meetings should go.

This has only ever worked for me with people at the same level as me but on a different team (account managers, where I'm their technical AM) and literally never has worked with a superior. I think my managers don't like someone else suggesting a management/feedback style for them.

[_y5hn]

Your intent and persistence is enough. A team-game's outcome is dependent on the entire team. In a team-game, you alone can't do the change alone. Expect real change to take about a decade, and mostly driven by other people than yourself.

Focus on what is in your control and on the longer plays.