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To respond to everything in this that I found either intellectually or personally offensive would be exhausting.

Gay marriage doesn't fit neatly into left/right ideological politics and the author's core complaint is that the supporters of gay marriage aren't sufficiently leftist.

The claim that the only people benefitting from the overturn of doma were/are the wealthy is patently absurd and factually false. The claim that the push for marriage caused harm by diverting resources from community health causes is also ridiculous. The disregard for gay families with children is palpable.

The core argument is no different than an extreme conservative libertarian argument that gay marriage shouldn't be supported because marriage shouldn't be the concern of the state. The near or medium term possibility of a socialist or libertarian utopia us zero. The harms of lack of access to the social institutions that do exist are real. Describing gaining access to those existing social structures as actively harmful because it doesn't suit your hard left ideology is gross.