[muzani]

Married 10 years here. I've said in an anniversary speech that you should marry someone who you'd bring to a zombie apocalypse. Not just someone who can fight or fix cars... you know, worldly stuff. But someone who's not going to abandon you when things get rough. And someone who you'd risk your life and the lives of your team to rescue.

I think whenever someone says that it defeats the purpose of marriage, what they mean is you probably shouldn't marry someone who doesn't bring you forward and someone you wouldn't want to give more than half your stuff to.

[yellow_lead]

You can both trust someone and have a prenup. The reasoning is that no one is 100% infallible with perfect judgement. Recognizing that you don't have perfect judgement doesn't mean you trust your partner any less.

[muzani]

I'm not sure we align here.

I'm saying that under a prenup, I'd probably be more generous than the laws would allow for. If you're not marrying someone who you would be generous to, why marry them?

If anything, it's the time of marriage that's when I don't have perfect judgement. Pre-nups would be the worst time to sign a contract.