[JabavuAdams]

Maybe ask a bunch of women developers what they think? Europeans too. If you don't get it maybe it's BS, or maybe you don't know enough.

As a really smart, sometimes empathetic young person I used to think that I could understand most issues by observation, without having to live through them. One of the bitter lessons of getting older is that this is just incredibly irritatingly wrong. The phrase "lived experience" makes me barf a bit in my mouth due to weaponization, so maybe I'll say "walk a mile in someone else's shoes".

EDIT> Try to imagine what it's like to be creeped on almost all the time, everywhere you go. Want to forget for a bit and concentrate on some coding? Nope, the dude you work with is going to giggle about anal something when he's not trying to catch some side-boob or blather nonsense to you because he's crushing hard on his brilliant female coworker.

EDIT 2> I'm okay with kink, but I don't want to be distracted in a professional context saying ridiculous things like "butt blug". It's just juvenile and dumb. I really wouldn't take a pro-sex, anti-prude stand on such nonsense.