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by anigbrowl
1782 days ago
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Keep being nice. Ask other people questions, people like a good listener - but if they run on too much ask them to summarize. Be willing to say no, regularly, and if asked for explanations be blunt but not arrogant or helpless, eg 'I'd prefer not to take on more projects' rather than 'it's not interesting' or 'I don't have time.' Help others. Don't ask people to help, which requires them to work out what sort of help you need. Ask them to do specific things, which gives them an easy decision as long as your requests are not burdensome. Take the initiative, which is often as simple as being the first person to leave a conversation or conversely make others wait a little to discover your opinion. Those can be your times to lead. Settling small disputes by saying you'll take responsibility will win you attention because so many people prefer to duck it. Tell people it's nice to see them and look out for opportunities to give people small compliments. Don't talk too much. Don't forget to thank people. Thanks that come later make more of an impact than thanks in the moment. In sum, limit your availability but make your presence enjoyable to others while providing a sense of direction. |
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