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by huge87 1784 days ago
I found my childhood to be boring, bordering on depressing. It was literally for a lack of stimulation for the following reasons:

- Only child.

- Invalid mother, so no access to all that entails: no car, no ability to get to places to do stuff, and all limitations related to health concerns.

- Father worked all day.

- I lived in a small, dark apartment with no internet, no cable, and no nearby friends.

Of course a kid is gonna find ways to entertain himself; I wandered the neighborhood, watched broadcast TV, played with my toys, etc.

But the general tone of my childhood can be summed up in a typical weekend: since dad is at work and mom is disabled and sleeps all day, I build my day around the newspaper TV guide. Just boring crap on until I Love Lucy comes on at 4 PM. Fill the cracks in with bouts of random wandering around the neighborhood by myself, but no kids around to play with.

Things changed as I grew and got more agency, but my formatives years of like 0-10 were pretty much this. Not ideal; I therefore have pretty strong opinions about giving my kids structure and access to their interests.

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Also an only child and I don’t think that makes things boring at all. I hate that narrative. I look at people with siblings and I am disgusted at the amount of fighting involved.
Kids fight with each other because they need attention. The best way, but this is hard, is to give them undivided attention for as long as they want it.

Then you have to figure out how to reward cooperative play and not reinforce either negatively or positively bad behavior.

It's hard to do....