[jbluepolarbear]

Someone on the team needs to be the leader (not them) and set ground rules. Be stern and direct. If they act out like that, don’t get upset and calmly ask them to either corporate or you’ll need them to leave. Ask their input often, but don’t let them steer the meetings. If they have an issue with how things are done look for a middle ground or explain why your method is the method you’re using without belittling their opinion. Be direct, don’t sugar coat things, don’t assume they will read between the lines, and try to understand that they are different than you.

I am neurodivergent and I have been on both sides of this. It’s hard for everyone involved.

From the start it seems that they felt unheard and unwanted so they are frustrated and feel stuck. Doing what I mentioned above can help repair this relationship.

[ganSo]

Thank you for your input. I'll be more direct when issues arise and have a set of rules for conduct ready. Hopefuly you're right about repairing the relationship.