| I think personal autonomy is underrated in most facets of life - we're just seeing the effects of it in this article on this particular study. I really really really disliked growing up in my family. It's not that I hated them, but I hated having to be around them all the time. Forced vacations on someone else's schedule, forced meal times, etc. I just really hated it. That was taken (even by my family) as rejecting them, which wasn't the case, but hard to articulate when you're 9. I really enjoy having time with my brothers now (and my parents) but it's because it's on my time and my schedule. I am pretty sensitive to sound, and having to sit around people who chew with their mouth open is torture. Same thing with gum chewing. I left a job once partially because I was forced to sit in the same room with someone who'd taken up gum chewing. Growing up with the family, meal times were really bad. Now, as an adult, I can politely leave the room for a few minutes if I need to (to destress) but as a kid, I couldn't. Being able to control where you work is great, but just reaffirms that as humans, we are happier when we are in control all aspects of our own lives. |