Something about the tone kept raising my hackles, and the shoe finally dropped at: I hope that this doesn’t come across as mocking. I find this genuinely sad. I strongly believe that relationships are preferable to aloneness.
He summed it up nicely at the end: The real article should have been called “The Dangerous Decrease in Moderately Liberal Men Who Are Willing to Date My Woke Friends Who Compete With Me for the Last Few Single Woke Guys in Their Thirties”
I think he considers himself one of those Moderately Liberal Men who have been put off by some subset of extremist progressive women. You may well be in that category; I'm pretty close to that target as well. I have more sympathy for the Woke Women than he does.One of the big mistakes I think he makes is seeing a "horseshoe" in that graph of extremism vs affiliation. That's not really what the "horseshoe" is about. The idea there is that the far left and far right actually have a lot in common, if only they'd stop yelling at each other long enough to realize it. But that's not what the graph says. It only says that moderates tend not to fight a lot, and extremists do. So I think what he wants to say is, "Hey, crazy woke women. You'll be a lot happier if you stop playing ideological games and start taking moderation more seriously." Which, ya know, is probably true. I hate that bit where I'm biting my tongue because I know if I open my mouth the next words will be "Well, actually..." That's not going to end well. And that sucks. I want to be right. I want them to be right. I want them to be right for the right reasons. Surely we can agree on that, right? Well, no. Because there's more going on than that. And I don't want to write up all that because this comment is already too damn long. But I'll shorten it to "Getting stuff done means picking your battles." He really seems to want to gripe about that, and citing various anecdotes about women who were bad to him despite agreeing with him. And all I can say is, "Get over it." Both your dating life and your political goals will be better for it. And that's where that quote about the relationships bugs me. Yeah, relationships are better than aloneness. But bad relationships are not better than aloneness. It sounds a lot like he's trying to say that women owe it to themselves to date him, because their reasons are bad and they'll all be better off if they were less devoted to their ideology. But... tough. They'll work through their issues at their own pace. Meantime, date other people. Or don't date at all if you can't find somebody. Because it sounds a bit as if he's spending his free time proving that they should date him, and that's not a good look. Ironically, you'll be more attractive if you're comfortable being alone. |
How about we just agree that very few people want to date someone who hates their gender?