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by bruce511 1800 days ago
A "mid life crisis" (which can happen at any time) is the moment when primary motivation switches from success to significance.

In our early working years we strive to become successful (for some definition of success) and this drives us to work hard, learn, experiment and so on.

Typically around age 40 you will have mastered the skills, and you will be "successful". So now you need a reason to get out of bed in the morning.

A very lucky few are already in significant jobs, and this motivation switch happens naturally and without fuss.

For the rest of us it's common to see if "playing with new toys" will satisfy. Like a motor cycle, sports car or boat. Sometimes this works, but often does not.

The happiest people I personally know seem to have found significance in seeing "others" rather than themselves. Family, community, young, are all candidates for our significance. It doesn't have to change the world, but changing the world of 1 person is deeply satisfying.

Financial freedom (earning more money in less time spent) allows more freedom in chasing this significance, and more means to do so.

Starting a business can deliver financial rewards (although mostly does not) but can also be deeply satisfying in other ways. When you look at the office carpark, and realise how many staff, and families, are being provided for because of your business, well, that's a good day.

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I’ve had the last 6 months off and will be taking at least another few more off. I’ve been investing in myself in going through lots of therapy to get over emotional trauma of my past, and now am just turning to looking forward. I haven’t coded in a while - and I’m finding that’s okay, it’s still a thing I can do if I want. Toys aren’t gonna do it. A house that I have to spend tons of time keeping up also isn’t gonna do it. It’s not even about legacy or anything death related for me, its more about how to feel a bit more content with myself and maintain or generate a playful disposition to the universe.
Good for you! Extended time off has been the best thing for my long-term mental health. It let me recover from issues and reset patterns. Good luck with rest of your break!