[BarryMilo]

People on HN speak their armchair sociology with such confidence it astounds me.

Even the idea that resentment can be "deserved" or not seems meaningless to me. People don't resent people because they think they deserve it, they resent people because things happened to them. We obviously can't assign blame for such infinitely complex causal chains, hell we can't even assign agency. Who's fault is it that someone's grandfather got brain damage in the war he was conscripted into, then went on to be abusive to his children, who went on to become addicted to alcohol. Who should say if these people then deserve resentment for being bad parents?

Life seems to me too random to comprehend, yet everyday I find people to tell me I should or should not condemn or condone people for their actions.

Maybe shit just happens and we look for reasons afterwards?