[MikeTheGreat]

> you prioritised family, hence where your career will go from that point shouldn’t matter to you at all

Hold on - this doesn't follow.

It's entirely possible that you value both your family and your career.

It would be good to talk with people who are actually in this situation in order to verify the assumptions you've listed.

[SilverRed]

It's a zero sum game. You only have so many hours in your life so valuing two things means you value each thing half as much as someone who values one thing.

[sofixa]

Yes, and there's enough time for both - work is 35-40 hours, maybe some overtime if you're really dedicated. Even at 50 ( too much IMHO), with 54 for sleep (7x8), that still leaves you 68 for family.

[adrianN]

40 hours work, 54 hours sleep, 7h commute, 5 hours lunch at work, 7 hours breakfast and dinner, 4 hours cooking, 2 hours cleaning, 3 hours personal hygiene, 1 hour grocery shopping... the list of "non family" activities is pretty long.

[nly]

Umm, yeah because nobody has chores to do. Cleaning, cooking, tidying, life admin, dealing with companies or people who are sucking away your time, home maintenance, etc etc

[lazide]

It doesn’t actually work that way - family can and will consume 100% of your time, just like work can. And some people can and will pick one of them and do just that.

If you’re ‘competitor’ is one of those people, well…..

[ramblerman]

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Opportunity_cost

Sure, you can value 100 things, but your time is limited. At some point you will make decisions that favour one of the things at the expense of the others.

[yarky]

Prioritize A over B implies you give more value to A over B. Example: we all sure value chocolate and health, but you must set your priorities.

If you give priority to your health,then you shouldn't care about the fat guy eating chocolate restlessly.

[wongarsu]

Those aren't binary choices, there is a spectrum. (and of course I can eat some chocolate and then go for a swim, which leaves me more healthy than if I had done neither of those things)

[yarky]

I agree with you, but I don't see how priority isn't about a binary choice though.

I forgot cocoa has health benefits, should have used cigarettes as example.