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by evilotto 1811 days ago
Obnoxious but serious question: are you living in your parents' house?

If not, move along, nothing to see here. (read the other comments about getting professional help, therapy, etc).

If you are, consider if you're just being complacent because you can be. Make a goal for yourself to move out within 6 months. Figure out what you need to do to live on your own, without free room and board to fall back on. And then stick to it.

Don't get me wrong, living in a rent-free or otherwise low-cost situation can be really beneficial, especially if you're paying off debt or saving for your own place. But it can also be a crutch that you lean on and prevents you from figuring out what you are going to do with your life.

Otherwise, create for yourself conditions where you can't be slothful. If you're in the US, walk one of the 3 Great Hikes. Travel through Europe (next year maybe). Join the Peace Corps. Get a volunteer job on an educational ship (e.g, the Lady Washington). These might be "dangerous", but don't underestimate the danger of being depressed at home.

Don't think that a job in tech will be any different from the others. At the end of the day it's still a job that you may like or not.

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No worries not an obnoxious question, I've been on my own since 18 and have done a fair amount of international travel and lot's of hiking. I'm from Montana/Colorado currently in Texas.
What if he were, and was taking care of them? We should all be so lucky.
That’s the sort of thing that drastically impacts and all career advice OP might receive.

If it’s the case, OP needs to mention it.

"Great Hikes"?
I'm assuming it's a reference to the "triple crown" of thru hiking trails. Appalachian Trail, Continental Divide Trail and Pacific Crest Trail.