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by ceilingcorner 1814 days ago
Traveling, dating random people, etc. is mostly a waste of time. Invest time and effort finding the right partner and the right place to live early and build a life. “Chasing experiences” is mostly unfulfilling.
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You tend to realize this after you've done this experiences. If you don't, you'd miss out something and somehow you will get it back later.

I know of people who got married before 20 yo, been together for a decade, got kids an all and after that one of the partner walked away because "I'm missing something out, I want find myself".

Traveling is a way to learn new culture and see things with a different lens so I'd definitely not remove that from the experience of person on their 20s

because "I'm missing something out, I want find myself".

This just comes from the media and consumer capitalism. A century ago, the idea that you should blow up your family to go “find yourself” in a series of experiences would be seen as laughable.

Agreed, but unfortunately is the sad reality. And social media didn't help either my friend