[AnimalMuppet]

Physical appearance matters. How you dress matters. It's not everything, but it's more than zero.

Don't have your identity wrapped up in winning. It leads to you being a hypercompetitive jerk, which is hard on relationships.

You can get better at interacting with other people, even if it takes some work. In my case, it took literally writing down every time I messed up with other people, and then talking them over with someone I trusted, and figuring out what I should have done in that situation.

And an extra: When you're asking someone out, don't ask what they're doing that weekend. It's none of your business what they're doing. Instead, ask if you can take them to dinner that weekend. That one turned out to be very important for me...