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by wintermutestwin 1812 days ago
Great answer! I'll post some notes I have on responding vs reacting:

Reactions limit choices. Responses give choices.

Reactions are unconscious, automatic, and based on negative emotions which stem from unmet needs. Responses are conscious, considered, and based upon the actual needs underlying the negative emotions.

Reactions often move us further away from getting our needs met. Responses usually move us towards getting our needs met.