[wolverine876]

> "no! forget about your preparation. The informal explanation you just gave is actually a good first class, just repeat it a bit slowly and call it a day". I knew he was fucking with me just to calm me down, but this actually gave me a confidence boost.

I don't understand why that's 'fucking with you'. Isn't that good, sincere advice?

[smitty1e]

One can quibble about the word choice, but the simple truth is that human interactions very frequently involve some sort of conscious/unconscious manipulation.

So one is better off to interact with people who are decent at that activity and seeking to build us.

Had my boss just yesterday close the office door and gently chide me about interrupting other people on the call. Best rebuke I've had in years.

[realityking]

I fondly remember the CMO taking me aside after I gave a presentation at a Company town hall (startup, ~300 people) and gently telling me I just made myself and the Marketing department look incompetent. I’m not completely bought into the whole radical candor thing but this was a great example of it working.

[geoduck14]

Was there and advice or direction associated with this talk?

[realityking]

Yeah, there was direct advice on communication style in this conversation. Just very candidly delivered.

[mromanuk]

Sounds sincere to me

[enriquto]

Yeah, in retrospect I agree it is good advice but I did not understand that immediately. Still, it helped me to see that teaching or giving talks should not be a "performance" but a honest act of communication.