[twodave]

Your description isn't all that different than how it actually played out, unfortunately. I usually tell new parents that the first one is by far the hardest if you value your own freedom in any way. And then of course, if you fail to come to terms with that (as I did) then the second child can definitely push you over the edge.

It wasn't until I was pretty much threatened with losing everything that I decided to change--I wish it hadn't happened that way, but I'm glad I made the choice I did.