[mr-wendel]

These are legitimate concerns. They may not end up being accurate, but they are legitimate.

There are a huge range of services available within the "theory" umbrella, some of which have 0% chance of involving medication. This may not be what you need, but it's a safe baseline. As another commentator stated ... don't think about theory, start doing it! In particular, talk therapy is a safe, often very effective, way of getting started.

Personally, it was instrumental to me to make some serious shifts in how I related to people and it took ~4 solid years of weekly sessions. A major component of this was having the space to take fears and anxiety seriously with the support of someone who didn't have (or really try to give) the answers, but was sufficiently anchored in life to provide a trusted second perspective.

Over time this let me identify some fears as wildly misplaced, some as valid but no longer applicable, and others as important enough to get a fire lit underneath me and do something about them. The resulting emotional freedom was life changing. Definitely I'm still a bit neurotic, but vastly more able to negotiate relationships, kindle curiosity into new hobbies (gardening and singing in particular, which I mostly never saw coming), and stay stable enough to grow in my career path.

Best of luck, friend!