Actually if any cohort of the population that really needs fine-tuned optimization strategies.. are parents. Every week I try to find a way to gain a free hour here and there for professional growth. I found Clubhouse app to be a godsend in terms of being able to absorb high-quality info/networking while on the-go.
re: Thankless hole
For a minority yes perhaps.
Its really the best long-term investment that you hope pays off in both seeing them flourish into beautiful adults who will either do something beneficial for humanity and ideally take care of your old broke ass when you are too old and frail.
I agree, I think what I should have said is that the tips you'll tend to find out there are often poorly suited to parents. If you try to hold yourself to those standards, you're going to have a rough time.
But yeah, it's almost a necessity to become better at time management and improving executive function as a parent. If you can't, you lose out in so many areas. It really compounds. I don't know of any sources of good advice on how to accomplish that though; I think families are complex so the 'one size fits all' advice that's more common will tend to cater towards people who have far more control over their environment.
As for the thankless rabbit hole, I was referring to the struggle to meet the standards of others with more time and resources to optimize their lives better. My kids are, overall, one of the most thankful aspects of my life. They're well worth the loss of optimization.