[brudgers]

Maybe it was whose definition of “success” the person was pursuing…conventional definitions are conventional because people accept them without deep reflection on whether they are right for them. They are easier to adopt than to question.

Or a problem with winning the rat race is you have to be a rat.

Unhappiness is worse than for naught.

[okareaman]

If you've seen Breaking Bad (if not, I'm not spoiling much) there is a scene where he tells his wife "I did it all for the family" and she disgustingly turns her head away and says something like "You did it for your own ego. You didn't care about us." It's kind of like that.

[brudgers]

I apologize for mischaracterizing your experience. I am sorry.

I hope you are healing.