[noway421]

As a founder with a failed startup, I relate. Talking to people helps. But as one of my friends said, very aptly, "There's no one else who can fix it but you".

Even though it sounds very abrupt and unhelpful, it's true. Finding inner peace, on your own, is what can actually help.

I still haven't.

[sergiomattei]

Mine failed two months ago. I quit all social media abruptly, worked on myself, and began the dissolution process.

I feel better. Distancing myself completely helped with the tough emotions of moving on.

If you need to talk or vent to anyone, email in profile.

[elevenoh]

nice to hear.

quitting social media, focusing on giving love, rekindling curiosity & physical/mental health seems to be the way to go.

[RHSman2]

Good advice. There are stages of the process hope it goes well.

[inakarmacoma]

Honest question, acknowledging it sounds a bit snarky. But as a fellow sufferer, if you still haven't, how do you know?

[noway421]

I really don't, but I assume it's true. Someone else once said that you can't find happiness outside [of yourself]. So being content is about finding inner peace?

[_carbyau_]

I can't pretend to know your story. My story is not startup related. But "inner peace" frustrates me.

For my turmoils, it was about acceptance. Saying "Yeah... that happened" with the idea the past doesn't define me.

To make the past separate do something, anything, that "past you" wouldn't guess, even just once. Maybe put cupcake-sprinkles on your morning cappuccino or on a PB&J sandwich. Change your desktop wallpaper to unicorns and rainbows. Sing along to a death metal song before breakfast.

.

This does two things:

1. Bookends an era. The old era is now BSC.(Before SprinkledCoffee)

2. Means you can do things tomorrow that even you can't predict today.

Congrats. You are now living in a new era where even you can't foresee the possibilities.

No inner peace though. Your past will always be your past. You will continue to have feelings about it though it does get easier over time. Maybe see a therapist if you can.

I like Desiderata, one unequivocal phrase of which is: "You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here."

You have a right to be here.

[knlam]

> "There's no one else who can fix it but you"

True, I have failed 2 startups (and on my way making the 3rd one). Finding inner peace is what held you together. After some struggling time after my 2nd failure, it get better for me.

One trick I told myself is that realizing the failure last time is the lowest point in my life, and eventually the dots will connected

[RHSman2]

Inner peace is an absolute. Very few people find it but getting towards it is an achievable goal. Lotta great insight and advice on here.