[runawaybottle]

This is normal. I personally don’t know where the pressure comes from either. If I have to guess, it’s one of those jobs where there is constant deadlines. Imagine your career was just deadline after deadline.

The second thing is we get validation via getting something done and saying so in standup.

If you mix deadlines and validation exhibitionism, you probably get a high pressure career. It’s not the same as a doctor or lawyer where they have to on-the-spot win the case or save the patient. That feels like a different type of pressure creation. Our version is weird and truly feels unnerving.

My only suggestion is to start forgiving yourself within reason. If you need a little more time, take it, and try to feel less shame when you have to say it in standup.

If it helps any, I’ve been working a modest amount of time and only recently began respecting myself when it comes to this.