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by mattparcens 1833 days ago
Potentially demeaning nomenclature aside, do men and women have a differential opportunity to [better phrase], and if not, is this fair?

And while it might be nice for the men who dominate all desirable, successful professions, does this help the median man? They're all individuals, after all.
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cjohnson318 1833 days ago
Based on my experience, I do not believe women have a better or easier "differential opportunity" when it comes to finding a partner and starting a family than men. I think "everything is easier for women because they're sexy" is an old trope that should be put to rest. Women on the whole do not want to "be sexy" any more, or less, than men do. I think women want to be taken seriously, and on their own terms, just like men.

> And while it might be nice for the men who dominate all desirable, successful professions, does this help the median man? They're all individuals, after all.

No, it doesn't. The fact that Jeff Bezos is a man or a woman does not affect my life at all. But, as a man, I have an easier time networking and working with other men in my field.

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citizenpaul 1833 days ago
>think "everything is easier for women because they're sexy" is an old trope

Pretending that this is a trope is harmful to discussion. Women can easily make it to 30yo without ever personally having to deal with solving any problems they have if they are pretty.

This does not however mean women don't have legit problems. However the gap of assistance options men have vs women is incredibly vast.

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nasmorn 1833 days ago
Men are not even helped if they are hot. My wife will often not acknowledge the physical qualities of men she thinks little of. As if they are not hot just because they are assholes. Women are strange like that often. Men might decide a woman is not as hot as she is crazy but they will not simply pretend she is not hot.
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cjohnson318 1833 days ago
Newsflash: the majority of women are not pretty, the same way most men are not attractive, this is why attractive people stand out in society, and we put them on billboards and in movies.

What gap of assistance options are you talking about? What class of women are benefiting from this? Seriously, a lot of women on Bourbon Street would like to know.

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citizenpaul 1830 days ago
>majority of women are not pretty

This is not true for women under 30yo. Men overwhelming rate women as attractive for the under 30yo demographic. Upwards of 80% of women are "attractive" to men. Look up the okcupid studies or others if you are really curious.

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