[erhk]

Go outside. Stop using apps. Unless youre incredibly attractive you always will get beaten by the person who makes a move in the real world. Hetero dating is gendered and apps remove the steps that a hetero man has to take, theres not much incentive for a woman who is already hit on regularly to use a dating app.

[bradlys]

I wouldn’t say that’s really universally true. I’ve found many people who met their long term partner online and had a plethora of people coming up to them. I’d say sometimes online is better for particular interests. (Depends on the app)

Outside is quite overrated. Unless you’re in a particular niche where forced interaction is a thing or you’re exposed to an endless amount of people who are interested in partnering, you’re going to have a bad time. (Even compared to online dating, the real world sucks a lot more these days for the average man - as you’re always competing with both even if you opt out of one) Add on the typical issues we have in our culture and well - it’s practically taboo to approach people these days out of the blue outside an app.

I’ve got a lot of experience with online and offline (“outside”) and both are quite horrific for the average man. Hell, I’m exceptional in some areas and I have had a hell of a hard time anyway. People really want their niche - whatever that is.

I’ve been fortunate to find someone and mostly fit their niche but it was a long road. A lot of people who wanted everything and expected to give nothing.