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Why have you found therapy useless?

Our chimp mind is not well suited to do SELF analysis for various reasons. The danger here, while you are stuck in some hole, is that the ever imaginative chimp mind comes up with self analysis that is pure bullshit. Then things get more and more tricky. The hole gets deeper and deeper.

You need people around you who can call out the bullshit and help you climb out of the hole you have wondered into. If you don't have an authority figure or someone you respect in your life who can do it then finding an experienced therapist will help.

Even monks have authority figures around them who keep them on track.