[notyourwork]

Not all teams in FAANGs result in burn out or require careful through about joining. I've been at one of them for 6 years and still find my work life balance to be sane. In fact I enjoy what I'm doing quite a bit because of the business space I'm working in and the quality of peers.

[silicon2401]

what do you consider sane work life balance? I consider anything over 40h excessive

[jefftk]

Another data point: I've never felt pressured to work more than 40 hours a week, and have probably averaged quite close to that over my FAANG career. Recently, with pandemic/WFH/less-to-do-outside-work, I started working some on evenings/weekends, and my manager asked me to stop because he doesn't want to have that kind of team culture.

[notyourwork]

+1 It can create a really toxic work culture. If I do work more its because I'm interested in a problem that I don't want to let sit till next week or the following day.

In general, I try to do this discretely by not pinging people outside working hours or trying to give impression I'm working late. Working late for me is usually working through code or a design at a time when I'm caught in it and don't want to let it sit until I solve it. If this happens I'll start late next day or reduce hours following week and I make sure I call this out during standup so my team knows why I'm signing off early.

It can become a snowball when one teammate sees another working and feels compelled to do same. Kudos to your manager for calling this out.

[notyourwork]

Yes. Aside from on-call week when I carry a pager 24-7 for the week but I don't work outside business hours unless paged.

[silicon2401]

Yes what? I asked "what do you consider sane work hours?" lol.

[notyourwork]

Because it was obvious, we know what full time is defined as. Anything more than 40h is more than a full time job.