[karaterobot]

I guess my advice would be to prepare as much as possible for the meeting, including writing documents that present their positions. I would also try to defer as many on-the-spot questions with lines like "that's worth thinking more about, let me get back to you with a more complete answer."

There is also that old exercise where you pose the same question to all members of the group, then have everyone break out and write their own answer, then come back together again afterward.

But, stuff like that won't always be enough. To a certain extent, meeting with other people is kind of a requirement for teams, and you have to think quickly to have an influence in meetings. It's a job skill she'll have to develop one way or another.

Now, if she's saying that the people she works with aren't letting her talk, that's a different story: it doesn't sound from your description like that's the case. More like, she's feeling anxiety in meeting situations, and to some extent feeling anxiety about that anxiety, and so on in a spiral.

If that's true, one step would be to treat the anxiety as a separate issue from just work meetings, and talk to a professional about it.

[shotput]

> But, stuff like that won't always be enough. > To a certain extent, meeting with other people is kind of a > requirement for teams, and you have to think quickly to > have an influence in meetings. It's a job skill she'll have > to develop one way or another.

> More like, she's feeling anxiety in meeting situations, > and to some extent feeling anxiety about that anxiety, and > so on in a spiral.

> If that's true, one step would be to treat the anxiety as a > separate issue from just work meetings, and talk to a > professional about it.

This.