[rad_gruchalski]

There are two aspects to that: 1. being able to take the difficult thing, even offensive, but also not holding the grudge. 2. being able to give in a way that doesn’t come across offensive.

Saying that honest thing as the person who can take it can be potentially damaging because it’s easy to lose the feeling for _how to say it_. Not everyone can take it the same way as _we_ take it, even when they claim they can. This kind of clarity requires trust from both sides.

Edit: it comes down to taking the ego out. Put your conscious self next to your physical self and focus on actions and emotions, not words.