[IQunder130]

>creepy transactional views of intimacy

The rest of your points are entirely valid, but this is absolutely not. Every living thing with a brain is in some sense acting as a utility maximizer. If you're not getting something you want out of a relationship, you won't partake it in it. Denying this is delusional.

[ben_w]

> Denying this is delusional

But the delusion is a useful one which boosts reproductive success, presumably because humans take a long time to become independent, so its absence is creepy.

(Does this count as an example of “facile evo-psych explanations of sexual attraction”?)

[IQunder130]

Just because your armchair evopsych swings the other way doesn't make it any more valid.

[ben_w]

‘Course not. Regardless, I observe[0] that people find transactional attitudes towards intimacy to be creepy — denouncing people for feeling thusly does not make them like it.

[0] I am aware this is mere anecdotes

[username90]

Similarly telling men that they are creepy for liking young slim women wont make them like old fat women more. People don't discuss these things to get laid, they do it because discussing things is fun.