[someelephant]

You can see from the other comments that people like prescriptive actions that anybody can take. It's a lot harder to accept that you might have some behavioral or mental issues that you need to dig into which would then make all of these behaviors natural. Forcing yourself to be a steel man is pretending. Becoming a steel man is much harder but is possible for those who willingly seek treatment. If you're willing to ask this question it means you are a good candidate for treatment. Good luck.