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by robocat 1870 days ago
If you would be a good parent and want kids, then I believe the idea of delaying is harmful, especially if you are over say 25.

Trying to set up the perfect nest, or to save "enough", is not a game that most people can win.

At least, the above is from what I have seen of friends that had kids, compared with those that delayed too long.
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cgrealy 1870 days ago
> If you would be a good parent and want kids, then I believe the idea of delaying is harmful, especially if you are over say 25.

25?!?

None of the people I know who have kids started trying for them until their 30s.

There’s nothing wrong with enjoying your 20s and having kids when you’re ready.

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hulahoof 1870 days ago
The risk of genetic defects increase with age[1]. You are right though, you can definitely have healthy children in your 30's, though late 40s looks a little scary.

[1] https://embryology.med.unsw.edu.au/embryology/index.php/Gene...

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robocat 1869 days ago
The pattern I have seen is enjoying your 20s, then deciding to have a family, but not having a suitable partner, which leads to undesirable outcomes (desperate decisions, never finding a partner, disappointment of not engine up with kids, difficulty conceiving). This goes for men and women.

Another pattern is seeing people in their thirties finding it harder to adjust to the necessary changes because they have got accustomed to a lifestyle.

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