[dfraser992]

You're right, I got a bit strident there at the end... unresolved emotions I guess. Perhaps she isn't playing games, I suppose I am reading into the situation, but she just is overwhelmed and can't get the software or system finished fast enough. If it is obvious at this point that nothing works (you were not clear on that), then perhaps try to have a non-confrontational meeting with her with a mediator in charge.

The goal would be to get her to understand it's obvious things are not working and she needs to start co-operating, otherwise everything will then get problematic - and that no one wants this. A totally autistic engineering we-need-to-solve-the-problem-and-get-things-on-track meeting.