[selestify]

> This is why work friendships in my experience are quite easy, even for an introverted hermit like myself. Often common interests between people, and _tons_ of time bonding.

Really depends on your team, in my experience. Nothing wrong at all with being a middle-aged parent who's too busy to do things with coworkers outside of work, of course. It's a workplace, and we're here to do work, not hang out. But my friendships at work tend to happen with people who are around my age and are interested in doing fun things together outside of work too.

Maybe it depends on your definition of "friend" as well. For me, no matter how well I get along with someone at work, so long as we're only chatting with each other over lunch and coffee breaks and the occasional team event, we're just acquaintances, not "real" friends in the sense that you hang out just for fun and help each other out with things that come up in personal life.

[imbnwa]

Unfortunately it feels like a lot of "culture fit" is actually "do I want to hang out with you"

[selestify]

Yes, that is really quite unfortunate.

[throwawayboise]

Yes, I am friendly with many people at work, but these relationships have never developed into anything beyond that.

[em-bee]

same here. those people that became friends at work were those where we had a common interest besides work, and we would have become friends even if we had worked at different companies.