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by em-bee
1888 days ago
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how would marriage be life destrying as opposed to living together without being married? interestingly, i believe germany has something like a concept of a "living arrangement similar to a marriage" which is completely informal, it's not something you chose but it is defined by a court simply based on the reality of how you live together. the result of that is, to my understanding, that if you separate, one party can still sue the other for eg. splitting your assets, etc. as for child support, the relationship status should not even matter, regardless if you are married, or even live together. you are the father after all, so you are partly responsible for your children. if you earn, you pay. in other words, you get the downsides of a relationship without the upsides of being married. |
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In my state, divorce, for a men, generally means paying roughly 1/3 of your income in child support, and splitting child-rearing expenses after that. To most people, that's financially devastating.
Before:
Mom earns $100k, $66k after taxes
Dad earns $100k, $66k after taxes
After, Mom gets $88k after taxes, dad gets $44k after taxes.
Uneven income, and Mom gets alimony too.
Mom signs kids up for a $24k/kid child care with 2 kids. Dad pays $24k and is left with $20k for his own living expenses. Mom is left with $62k. Many Moms do things like this punitively, because they hate Dad. Dad is living in poverty, and it's life-ending. Mom is using child support to buy fancy clothes for herself.