[jcims]

I think if you actually asked the people you are talking about how to be more concerned about them, they would (in the full spectrum of civility) tell you it's not necessary.

That said, there's a combination of nature and nurture at play, in this case I would suspect mostly nurture, and that's something that most people can't control. So if you want to feel bad for them, feel bad that they didn't have the benefit of the nurturing you had to value the things you do.