| Sorry for coming back to this, I'm sure I will regret it. We are touching on some of the same ideas, which I think is great. Part of the "wimpification of America" is in the same vein: "This does not make me successful, so I will not do it, someone else will handle it." Part of creating strong people is creating robust people. The trouble is when success is the only goal, you will get it at any cost including your ethical framework. (Rereading this: when I say robust, I mean versatile.) Not caring about it is realizing that there are others who might sacrifice/min max in ways that are detrimental to their well being and that perhaps that is bad for you as an individual. The side effects of overpressure to perform are just as bad, you can see this in the indecision of people who don't make ANY decision because they are afraid to take responsibility for things. This is usually because anything that is not 110% is unacceptable, therefore, do not do anything you cannot 110%. You can see this in newly formed adults who have never been told no absolutely losing it at their corporate job when things do not go their way. I have managed these people, and let me just say, wow. You keep doubling down on how "success is crucially important" but, are maybe not seeing how this conflicts with strong people. In either case, I hope your kids do well. You have a strong belief system which hopefully results in strong people. |