[shaftway]

> As it turned out, he does not has ADHD and turned out really bright and have a lot of friends at school.

You're setting up some really strong false dichotomies here. Surprisingly you can have ADHD and be smart. Or have friends. Or even have all three.

It's great that you have a better relationship with your kids. It's important to spend time with them on shared interests.

I have mild ADHD that I medicate for as-needed, and my son has severe ADHD. It's something that we have bonded over, and have long discussions about strategies to mitigate and cope with it. He is on medication most days, but it's his choice and he sees the benefits to it.

It's also possible for kids to have ADHD and need medication for it, and for their parents to want to spend time with them.