[thirtythree]

OP already explained that the partner does not see sitting at a computer as working. They have different underlying assumptions which need to be addressed. That can be hard but not worth throwing away a relationship unless one person won't work towards resolving it.

[belval]

HN is not /r/relationships so I don't want to discuss healthy relationships too much, but their partner not seeing sitting at a computer as working does not mean that reminding them that it is in fact working won't change their behavior.

If anything I empathize with OP because I had the exact same issue with my partner where she'd come to show me tiktoks while I was working but when I said I did not want to be disturbed she stopped. Sure she teased me about being too serious but I just don't see how a healthy relationship could have something like this escalate...

[thirtythree]

I don't know what /r/relationships. I am glad you and your partner resolved your issues. Do you think the same solution will work for every similar problem?

[unishark]

Or, rather than hinging your relationship on the current extraordinary pandemic situation, just leave it unresolved and avoid working from home as much as possible. Presumably it will get easy to avoid again.